From 21 to 31. A decade of life lessons that our founder, Phoebe wishes she could tell herself at 21

Turning 31 in 2020 got me reflecting on a new decade and the difference between turning 21 and 31. My priorities have shifted so much in this decade that I truly don’t think I would recognise my 21 yr old self. Sharing some of the life lessons I wish I had worked out earlier in case they resonate with you! 

Phoebe x 

Asking for help is not embarrassing or a sign of weakness.

You don’t have to do everything by yourself. Even the most confident people are making it up as they go along. Now you’re in a position where people ask you for help you’ll realise how flattering and lovely it is. Tell people that you admire, that you admire them because they probably have the same doubts and fears as you.

Speak up and take part.

Your opinion is valid and you have stuff to say! Don’t think that just because someone speaks louder, their perspective is more valid. Self limiting beliefs hold you back more than anything else.

Getting a 1st class degree doesn’t unlock some secret hidden path.

It just means you spent 3 years working bloody hard on something you didn’t care about. Everything else you do will need more energy and hard work than you ever put into studying.

Failure is the best thing that will happen to you.

Failing at something fast saves you time, money, disappointment. I am so grateful for my failures and wish I had gone all in on some things earlier, so I could learn and move on faster.

Eat more plants.

This simple truth will change your life. The more plants you eat, the better you feel. 

Worrying about things that may never happen is stealing joy from the amazing things that do happen.

Find a way to move past this. 

Going on another night out will not help you achieve your dreams. 

Don’t be afraid to take charge of your life and prioritise the things that are important to you. It means making unpopular decisions and saying ‘No’ more than you would like. The faster you learn this, the faster you can start living your dream.

Never underestimate the importance of health.

This will cost you half a decade! 


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